Looking Out for Our Own: A Builder’s Guide to Mental Health on Site
I’ve worked in construction for over a decade. I’ve seen it all — long hours, cold starts, tight deadlines, banter that cuts both ways. But the hardest stuff? It’s often the stuff you don’t see.
I’ve lost mates to suicide. Quiet blokes who never said a word. And it’s made me realise: we’ve got to get better at looking out for each other.
So, this aint some airy-fairy blog. It’s real tips that might help you, or someone in your team. Things I’ve picked up, things that work. All backed by proper advice from places like Mates in Mind, Lighthouse Charity, and Mind.
1. Don’t Wait for Someone Else to Ask – Check In
If a mate’s off, seems different, or is snapping at everyone, don’t ignore it. You don’t have to be a therapist. Just ask:
“You alright, mate?”
“You’ve not seemed yourself. What’s going on?”
It’s amazing how often that small nudge opens the door. Don’t worry about saying the wrong thing. Just listen. You’re not there to fix it, just to let them speak.
✅ Mates in Mind – Starting the Conversation
2. Learn the Warning Signs
You get to know your team pretty well on site. If someone starts acting out of character, it’s worth paying attention.
Watch out for:
- Turning up late all the time
- Getting snappy or withdrawn
- Drinking more
- Taking more risks
- Saying stuff like “I’ve had enough” or “What’s the point?”
It doesn’t mean they’re falling apart but it might mean they need a hand.
✅ Mind – Recognising Mental Health Problems
3. Talk About It During Toolbox Talks
We talk about safety every day — hard hats, steel toes, harnesses. But we almost never mention what’s going on inside your head.
Next time you’ve got a toolbox talk, bring it up. Doesn’t have to be deep. Just a reminder that there’s help out there, and there’s no shame in using it.
✅ Lighthouse Club – Toolbox Talk Resources
4. Breaks Aren’t a Luxury – They’re Survival
I’ve done the 14-hour shifts. Skipped lunch. Hit the pub after a rough day. It catches up with you.
Try this instead:
- Take a proper break, even if it’s 10 minutes in the van
- Drink water (yeah, seriously)
- Get some sleep — it makes a difference
- Move your body on your days off (not just sofa-to-fridge)
It doesn’t mean going soft. It means keeping yourself in shape for the long haul.
✅ HSE – Work-Related Stress Advice
5. Make Sure Everyone Knows Where to Get Help
A lot of blokes won’t say a word until they hit the wall. So managers need to make it dead easy for them to know where to turn before that happens.
Put posters up in the break room. Share numbers in the group chat. Keep it visible.
Top contacts:
- Lighthouse Helpline: 0345 605 1956
- Download the Construction Helpline App (Free)
- Samaritans: 116 123
✅ Lighthouse Club – Free Support Services
6. Don’t Take the “Man Up” Route
We’ve all heard it. “Toughen up.” “Get on with it.” But bottling things up doesn’t make you strong. It just makes you explode later.
Want to really be tough? Try being honest about how you’re feeling. That takes more guts than pretending everything’s fine.
And if you’re in charge of a team, be the one who sets the tone. Show that it’s OK to speak up.
✅ Construction News – Mental Health in Construction Survey
7. Push for Mental Health First Aiders
We’ve got first aid kits for cuts and falls. Why not have someone trained to deal with mental health stuff too?
If your site doesn’t have one, ask about it. Or get trained yourself. You could be the difference between someone coping and someone breaking.
✅ MHFA England – Mental Health First Aid Training
Look — we’re not counsellors. We’re sparkies, brickies, labourers, site managers. But we’re also dads, sons, brothers, mates.
Looking after each other doesn’t take much. Just a bit of time, a bit of listening, and making sure everyone knows they’re not on their own.
You’d never let someone work at height without a harness. So don’t let them carry their struggles without support.
If you’re reading this and struggling right now — call the Lighthouse Helpline. They’ll talk, they’ll listen, they’ll help. You don’t have to do this alone.
Written by Will Gough.
All JATA colleagues (and their immediate family) can access free, confidential support 24/7 through our Health Assured helpline. Whether you’re dealing with stress, financial worries, family issues or legal concerns, help is always available if you work for JATA — online, on the phone, or via the My Healthy Advantage app.
Oh and ps…
We’re planning a little fundraising for ManDown — a Cornwall-based men’s mental health charity — at our summer BBQ this year. More details to be announced soon!
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